Year: 2014

Ready to turn sacrifice into a positive thing: A lesson from previous generations

Living in post-modernity definitely has its perks (see previous post with an answer from Quora). I know I take for granted the numerous material luxuries we are able to have. But more than that I take for granted the intangible luxuries, like time, the ability to communicate and even work through a device called the computer, education, freedom of speech, and womens rights to name a few. I take for granted the simple fact that I can sit down on a Friday night and type this post out on my computer, is due to all of those intangible luxuries, that previous generations did not have. It really puts into perspective the things that I’m dissatisfied with or complain about. When I think about the things I had to give up to become a mother for example, the list seems long at first, but when I really think about it, it is nothing compared to what my mom or my grandmother had to give up (I’m using maternal references only because I’ve been on the topic of motherhood …

5 challenges new moms face and how to overcome them

I wanted to follow up on my last post with a more serious and positive post. Bear in mind that all that I said was true and still stands. Except it is now 12:45am. Anyways, here it goes. 5 challenges new moms face and how to overcome them. I’ve been wanting to speak to my own experience and perhaps the experience of some other new mothers out there. Its not new, but its really from personal experience and how i’m in the process of discovering ways to cope and even soar. Get ready, this is a long one. 1. Tiredness (Physically and emotionally) Ok, this is a given. And most of you who don’t have children probably already knew this based on friends reports or common knowledge. Having a newborn, baby or toddler, is physically taxing due to needing to tend to its physical needs – breastfeeding throughout the day/night, cleaning up after him/her, putting them to sleep, doing household chores, playing and activities with them to name a few. But I want to pay more attention to emotional fatigue. …

5 things you need to know about being a new mother

I thought i’d take a few minutes tonight to share a few revelations I’ve had since becoming a mommy. Get ready to be enlightened! 1. You find time to write a post about being a mommy, somewhere between 10pm after your toddler falls asleep and midnight. These things don’t write themselves, and during the day you’ve got a toddler/puppy dog coming after you every 5 minutes. Other things you do between 10pm and midnight are, watch youtube videos, catch up on 1-2 episodes of Project Runway, or watch 2 movies on Netflix, use the bathroom and eating what ever you want! You can sometimes fit a shower in as well, but its not high priority. This is your golden time. 2. You now cry every time you watch a movie with a baby in it…like Three Men and a Baby. 3. To add some excitement to your day, you are on AMAZON ordering random baby/toddler stuff (things you can get at target, super markets, car seat companies etc.). The exciting part is forgetting what you ordered and not knowing …

A PLACE OF HER OWN

This coming Thursday July 31st, is the opening of an art exhibition presented by the Asian American Women Artists Association (AAWAA), which involves healing for Asian Pacific American (APA) women and women of color through expressive arts. The exhibition is titled: A PLACE OF HER OWN. I first came across AAWAA about 3 years ago and visited the same exhibit that year. Having been a therapist, this type of exhibition resonated with me in thinking about my clients. But now as a mother, it resonates with me in a different way. It’s been a long time since I’ve done something without an agenda. It’s been tough to find A PLACE OF MY OWN where I can just be in the pure enjoyment of an experience. But when I saw the invitation to this event come in through my email, I knew, I just had to go. I plan on going this Thursday (if all goes well) and when I think about it, I can imagine myself in a place just taking in art, natural beauty and being in good company. I’m excited …

Aliases

Did some research today on other mommy blogs. I am definitely a novice when it comes to mommy blogs. I realized other mommy blogs don’t share their full names, names of their kids, or even the name of their husband. So I had to quickly go through all of my site and try to catch anything where I’ve done any of the above and change my son’s name to “Toddler”. Luckily I caught this early on. It makes a lot of sense when you’re posting things into the public where anyone can read your ‘stuff’.  I immediately also thought of his future or worse yet – child predators.  Thought I should do a better job of protecting his privacy. Come to think of it, this should also apply on facebook (Even though my privacy settings are pretty strong). Anyone else share these thoughts? I’d like to come up with a better alias than “Toddler”…. If you see me use strange aliases in my future posts, you’ll know why.      

Driving for a nap – probably shouldn’t do this

  It’s 10:30pm on a Friday night. I just put Toddler to sleep a few minutes ago, and I’m about to crash, but I thought I’d take a few minutes share a dilemma I’ve had these last few days. It’s a common problem, and here’s my problem solving process. Dilemma: Toddler is tired, but for some reason (maybe because he pooped), he doesn’t go down for his nap. This happened for the last two days and then today. Solution A: Leave him alone. Let him be really tired, crabby, and finally crash right before dinner. Solution B: Drive him around in my car until he falls asleep and wakes up (approx 1-2 hours). Neither sounded that great to me at the time, but I chose solution B. The reasoning for this stemmed from when Toddler was just born. I was obsessed about his naps. He had to have his naps, every day at the right time. And I’d do anything to get it done. My research showed that babies need a certain amount of sleep at every stage of their …

First Entry

I finally updated this blog to get it to look decent. And i’m now proud to say this is my first entry! It’s sort of like setting up your first rental apartment. You have your bare bones pieces of ikea furniture and you’re somewhat ok with letting your first guests come over to see it. Speaking of setting up apartments. This is a picture of my husband’s apartment in New York while he’s on a 1 year fellowship track with Columbia for Otolaryngology. Like this blog, I set it up so that it’s decent enough to live in, yet alone have guests over. We’re minimal and practical so it’s all about ikea furniture that we mostly bought or found second hand. We’re pretty proud of it. NYC will turn up a lot on this blog, because A. I’m in love with the city, and B. I’ll be spending some time flying over there to catch up with the hubby. We’re doing a long-distance marriage for a year. For those of you contemplating it or in it, this …