All posts filed under: Inspire

Why Writing A Blog Isn’t Enough And Why I’m Building A Community Instead

  “I finally came to the conclusion that a blog, while a great media platform, is not the same as a community. And thats what we really need. It’s what we might spend 2 precious minutes of our time for.” Here’s my problem from a bloggers stand point. My blog aims to cater to newly minted moms (like myself), and quite frankly, it comes with one minor issue: Mom’s don’t have time to read blogs. They simply don’t have the leisure time to sit there and get through a single blog post. They can barely return a text some times. A text is less than 100 characters! And you’re expecting them to read those 1000 word blog posts and then leave a comment? For who? I’ll admit I don’t like commenting on posts either unless it’s asking a specific question that I feel I can answer. Reaching a mom is like trying to communicate via morse code to an alien in outer space. Aliens all just trying to keep their sh*t together. 😉 But you know what they will make time for? A play date, meeting up with …

Why Millennials Love Everlane (And Why I’m One Of Them)

Let me just say this. If you’re looking for a “no-frills” approach to clothing, look no further than Everlane. For those who aren’t familiar, Everlane is a San Francisco based online-only clothing brand that adopts a minimalistic design aesthetic for their clothing. They do basics: T-shirts, cashmere sweaters, leather backpacks, silk everything and crisp poplin shirts. Nothing you haven’t seen before, but you get quality items you can wear daily and still look stylishly cool for an affordable price.  As a customer, it finally feels like I’ve found my home and can see myself sticking around for a while. Here’s why. Initially I was looking for alternatives to fast fashion retailers (which comes with unethical fashion practices), and designer brands that carried too high of a price tag for what they’re selling. I was on the hunt for brands that believed in doing fashion ethically in addition to what they could offer their customers aesthetically. Everlane was one of those brands that stood out to me. First their story. Everlane is a refreshing gem in the already barren San Francisco fashion …

Leaning On Each Other – My Interview with author Shay Chan Hodges

Lets talk about motherhood and work. When I was still pregnant with O, I dropped out of the work force. My family encouraged me to. They told me that it would be better for the baby to have his mother take care of him, especially in the early years. All my training in child psychology confirmed this. It would be economically challenging but luckily we wouldn’t be without health insurance and I had help from family. So I didn’t really think twice about it. However the story doesn’t end there. I soon learned that staying at home would be harder for me than I thought. I was the type of person that needed and wanted to work, and if I didn’t, I knew that staying at home alone with a child would ultimately drive me crazy.  So after my husband returned from New York, I began to think about how to go about getting back to work, and be able to be a full-time mother to my son. Although it was tough when my husband lived apart from us in New …

Why new mothers need self-care?

Every new mom knows how easy it is to put the needs of your baby first, most often before your own. That is natural and sometimes a necessity. We all know what its like to have missed showering, been constantly sleep deprived, emotionally wrecked by the littlest things, and forgotten the last time we did anything for ourselves. Yes, most of us would rather drop from exhaustion than caring for our own needs. We neglect one major thing, and that is our own wellbeing. When we neglect our own needs we are buying into the lie that is, “I cannot fail so I have to keep going.” Taking care of your needs, does not mean failure or weakness. I’ve been wanting to write a more general post about self-care for a long time now, but a few things have gotten in the way. Although it seems intuitive, especially now that O is almost 3, and i’ve weathered a few storms. And despite having been a therapist, I felt like talking about self-care and more over doing it, was …

5 things you should know about film photography

A guest post by Carol Ly of Carolly Photography My friend and film photographer Carol, sits down and gives us the 411 on film photography.  1) Film photography for weddings are everywhere. Just look through all the top bridal magazines and blogs. Most of the photographers who shoot the beautiful, natural light weddings are film photographers. Film can look very editorial and if you’re drawn to magazines like Martha Stewart Weddings, Town & Country, or blogs like Style Me Pretty, OnceWed or Magnolia Rouge, many of these editors favorite and featured weddings are done on film. It has a high-end look to it and photographers who shoot film tend to be very picky about how they photograph, thus curating images with a lot of intention and thought behind it. Film looks very classic, clean, and timeless. 2) Film isn’t perfect. The wonderful thing about analog equipment is the way it introduces imperfections to an image, that are actually quite beautiful. Think of listening to music on a record play versus an mp3; the subtle inflections …

The Final Tell All: My interview with Amber Padilla

So some of you requested that I do a ‘part 3’ to my already 2-part long post Getting off the tech pedestal…for a brush and canvas. So I thought I’d share a few of the things that I had to edit out of my posts originally, and paint (pun intended) an even more dynamic picture of my friend Amber Padilla (who recently started a Facebook page called Candymistakes by the way, so you can follow her progress as an illustrator/comic book artist). Her story is one I really don’t mind losing sleep over writing. Humble beginnings For those of you who already read my first 2 posts, you would have known that she was one of the few people out of her high school to make it to college.  And for Amber, like many college students in this country, the financial struggle and burden of pursuing higher education hit her hard. When I asked her what her biggest struggle in life or her career was, she said it was financials. “I remember having to learn how to really make a dollar stretch. I …

Getting off the tech pedestal…for a brush and canvas (Part 2)

The new ‘home’ The first thing you notice, when you enter the Firehouse Art Collective studio space, is an amazing array of color and art mediums. Each artist sharing the space has their own little area displaying their beautiful creations and works in progress. There’s no shortage of inspiration. It is worth mentioning, that The Collective, a non-profit, is directed by Tom Franco. Does the name ring a bell? Well, Tom Franco, happens to be the (middle) brother of the actors James and Dave Franco. Tom is a painter/sculptor, and together with his life partner Julia Lazar, they founded the Firehouse Art Collective, “a space for artists of all disciplines to co-create community and culture, and for art patrons and collectors to buy cutting edge art of lasting value”. Sadly Julia passed away last year from cancer, before Amber had a chance to meet her. It was this community that Amber claimed as her new ‘home’. Her space, one of my favorites (though I’m probably biased), showcases her creative process and interests. And because I know her, it just made more sense to me when I …

Getting off the tech pedestal…for a brush and canvas (Part 1)

We met 12 years ago at a christian college fellowship in the heart of LA’s westside. She was at Otis College of Art and Design and I was an undergrad at Pepperdine University. And while I may be dating ourselves, it seems like only yesterday we were in LA, and now 12 years later, find ourselves both married and living in the Bay Area. Our journeys from LA to the Bay Area are not so different. We both moved up here to be with our significant others and to take the next step in our careers. I had just graduated from graduate school and began my career in psychotherapy. And she began working at a start-up…that got acquired by Google (You know, no biggie!). It was almost like a fairy tale/science fiction story: Amber Padilla, an exuberant young woman from the far away lands of Orange County, set off to the promise land of Silicon Valley to pursue her dreams; a hope for something greater. She landed her first job in a small company that developed apps for the golden Apple, and before long, …