All posts tagged: marriage

Marriage Tune-Up: 5 Things To Do With Your Loved One This Valentines Day Weekend

Guest Post by the husband Similar to cars that need to have their oil changes and be maintained occasionally to help preserve the car, sometimes marriages need a tune-up as well. There are tons of these “lists” that describe date nights, paint a picture of a beautiful small trip, or elucidate techniques on enhancing communication. This article will do nothing of that sort. Date nights are important every week or so, small trips are fun to go on if you are able to obtain someone you trust to watch your little one, and communication is key in all aspects of a relationship, especially your marriage. Instead, below are a few ideas you can do with your loved one this Valentines Day exemplified by some activities we engaged in during our trip to New York City. All photos were taken with our iPhone 6. 1. Start by taking a walk This may sound very cliche, but taking a walk is a great way to be in touch with your spouse and really talk about things that …

A family reunited?: What happened after my husband returned

About 2 months ago, my husband returned from his year of fellowship in Manhattan. A year that almost tore apart this family. At least, that was how we felt at the time. I had written a post prior to his return about our 1 year long-distance marriage and what I had learned from it. Now it all but seems like a distant…nightmare. When I wrote that post, I probably left a lot of readers hanging, largely because I was unsure as to how things would turn out after he returned. We could all only imagine and hope that things would be better and that we would work together as a couple to re-strengthen our marriage. Well, I wanted to briefly share and update you on how things have been. Close friends can probably already tell that things have been going well. But I wanted to share more deeply the impact that it has had on us and for me individually. My husband’s return changed more things than one. I should also mention that he had the …

Fathers Day 2015

Happy Fathers Day Baba! We survived another year! And while we’re not able to spend this day together, you’re in our hearts and we’re sending you our love. Please know that we appreciate you and we thank you for all that you’ve done for us from afar. We know it’s been tough. You’ll be coming back for good in less than 2 weeks (can you believe it?) and a new chapter awaits us! Get ready….cuz we’re excited! Love and prayers, Mummy and the O-meister.

What i’ve learned from a year of a long distance marriage

  I thought I’d start from where I left off from my last blog post. I will be a little candid, and I thank my husband ahead of time for allowing me to write about our lives or about him. After all I did start this blog with the intention of doing so: read here So what happened? The Rut happened. We all get in a rut some times. We run into challenging times. And as much as I’d like to give myself credit for surviving it, I won’t deny how hard it was and that is was easily one of the toughest years of my life..and how alot of it was self-inflicted. When you’re in a rut, you don’t really think about it, you kind of just go through it. I believe my rut started in December of last year (2014), but its origins might have been sooner. My husband and I had been living apart for about 6 months (he in New York, our son and I here in the Bay Area), with my visits occurring roughly once …

First Entry

I finally updated this blog to get it to look decent. And i’m now proud to say this is my first entry! It’s sort of like setting up your first rental apartment. You have your bare bones pieces of ikea furniture and you’re somewhat ok with letting your first guests come over to see it. Speaking of setting up apartments. This is a picture of my husband’s apartment in New York while he’s on a 1 year fellowship track with Columbia for Otolaryngology. Like this blog, I set it up so that it’s decent enough to live in, yet alone have guests over. We’re minimal and practical so it’s all about ikea furniture that we mostly bought or found second hand. We’re pretty proud of it. NYC will turn up a lot on this blog, because A. I’m in love with the city, and B. I’ll be spending some time flying over there to catch up with the hubby. We’re doing a long-distance marriage for a year. For those of you contemplating it or in it, this …